Sometimes personal growth means letting go of relationships that no longer serve our highest good. There’s an expression that says “People are meant to be in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.” But letting go of people and relationships is one of the most difficult tasks we face, even once we’ve discovered the reason or experienced the season. A relationship doesn’t have to be “toxic” to have run its course, and sometimes it’s hard to know when it’s time to say goodbye.
Tips for Letting Go
Once you’ve come to the conclusion that a relationship is no longer healthy, you may need to take mindful actions in order to emotionally and physically let it go. Try these steps to help ease the transition as you enter a new world of possibilities.
- Be honest. There’s no need to create drama in order to let go of a relationship. Be honest with the person and simply tell them you no longer feel the friendship thriving. Avoiding the other person or lying to get out of spending time will only prolong the inevitable.
- Forgive. Forgiveness is the key to healing after any sort of breakup, and that includes forgiving yourself for any wrong doing. Let the person know you harbor no bad feelings and wish them nothing but the best. Letting go of resentments will make you stronger in the long run.
- Fill the gap. Take up a new hobby—maybe one your former friend discouraged—in order to fill the time you once spent with them. Spending time immersed in activities you enjoy will recharge you emotionally and help you move forward.
- Be social. Solitude is valuable, but too much time alone can lead to depression and self-doubt, especially after a breakup. Balance your schedule with time for friends and social activities that fill you with positive energy.