Forgiveness is something everyone struggles with at some point. In fact, letting go of anger and hurt is one of the hardest things to do. However, many times hanging on to negative emotions can cause more pain that the original action. Forgiveness is often the key to finding peace and comfort in the midst of difficult situations. The idea of forgiveness has inspired some of the world’s greatest thinkers. Here are their philosophies on the topic, as well as some thoughts on how to apply it in your own life.
It takes strength to forgive
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.” – Mahatma Gandhi
Forgiveness rarely feels like the easiest path. While forgiving and letting go seems difficult, staying angry feels simpler. However, strong people know that forgiving is actually easier in the long run. Holding on to anger means struggling with the original hurt, plus the need to forgive, for the long run. On the other hand, forgiving means opening yourself up to peace. So, though forgiving feels difficult at first, it is actually easier in the long run.
Everyone needs forgiveness
“Forgive, forget. Bear with the faults of others as you would have them bear with yours.” – Phillips Brooks
No one is right all the time. Eventually, everyone makes mistakes and accidently hurts someone else. People that are kind hearted and willingly forgive others may find that, when the shoe is on the other foot, others are more apt to forgive them.
Forgiveness is a gift to yourself
“Forgiveness is letting go of the past.” - Gerald Jampolsky
Holding on to anger means letting a dark cloud hover over both yourself and the other person. Forgiving may seem like a kind thing to do for someone else, however in reality, it is a gift to both of you. When the past haunts you, it is impossible to move forward. Anger is an anchor that ties you to the past. However, forgiveness can set you free and allow you to move forward in peace and becomes a gift not only to someone else, but to yourself as well.
The most important person to forgive is yourself
“Forgive yourself for your faults and you mistakes and move on.” – Les Brown
Often the hardest person to forgive is yourself. Often, people are harder on themselves than on anyone else. This makes self-forgiveness even more important. Continuing to focus on shortcomings may prevent you from realizing your full potential. Instead, move past your own past mistakes and make the most of the present and future.